This month’s Ask Coach Kathy question is about talking over your mate in a conversation and what you can do about it.
My husband is a chatterer, story-teller, and an all-around talker. I love that he is like this, however, sometimes he is oblivious to the fact that I am talking and he cuts me off in mid-sentence. It is very embarrassing in front of friends and family. How do I get him to realize what he is doing?
As you said, your husband’s gregarious nature is probably one of the things that attracted you to him. Having said that, it’s definitely not okay for him to bulldoze right over you speaking.
In a private moment, reference the last time you noticed him doing that and let him know that you felt cut off and embarrassed. Let him know that you want to be able to finish your story. If he does this again (and he will because it sounds like a habit), gently put your hand on his arm and say, “Wait one second. I just need to finish my story.” My guess is that if you do this 2-3 times in a row, this situation will be on his radar and his habit will fade.
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