This month’s Ask Coach Kathy is about the absence of intimacy in a relationship and the effect that it has.
My husband and I haven’t been physically intimate in over a year. It seems we are always at odds with one another. There is a constant level of anger and resentment between us. I think he resents me for not wanting to be intimate, but how can I when I’m so mad at him that I don’t even want him to touch me?
It makes complete sense to me that you don’t want to be physically intimate with your husband if you two are emotionally disconnected. I’m a big believer that a relationship needs to be working outside of the bedroom for the bedroom to be up and running. At some point in the near future, I would recommend you and your mate address the elephant in the living room with a candid and conflict-free conversation. It may be time to reach out for professional help so that you can get new information, bridge the gap, and inch your way back to and emotionally and physically balanced relationship.