My husband and I have a 2-year-old granddaughter who we watch 4 days a week. We love her dearly, but I am completely wiped out by the end of the week, so much so that I don’t enjoy the weekend. It doesn’t seem to bother my husband, but this is unsustainable for me. I don’t […]
Finding Balance on Father’s Day: Expressing Your Needs as a Dad
My wife usually wants to make a big deal out of Father’s Day. We have my two siblings and their adult children over, as well as ours. She plans a big cookout (I’m the grill master) and lawn games that last way into the evening. By the time people leave, I’m exhausted and don’t necessarily […]
Overcoming Interruptions and Embracing the Power of the Pause in Relationships
Are interruptions interfering with your relationship? This month’s debut article of Can You Relate? Is about being in a relationship in which you, your mate, or both of you have the habit of interrupting the other person or each other. If you look at your relationship as having a life force of its own, which […]
Do You Make Assumptions About Your Mate’s Thoughts?
My husband tells me I do something that drives him crazy. He says I make assumptions about what he is thinking and talk to him in statements. For example, he says I say, “So, you want to go out to eat,” or “You think I salt our food too much when cooking.” I’m just saying […]
How to Speak Up When You Feel Like a Doormat in Your Relationship
I believe one of the reasons my wife fell in love with me 25 years ago is because I am a very chill guy who is accommodating to her wants and needs. Most of the time I’ll go along with my wife’s ideas. Lately, though, I’m feeling a little taken advantage of by her. When […]