I was on Trapper Jack in the Morning show on WDOK 102.1 FM this week, talking about some statistics showing that moms are the ones to start arguments. Asked if I thought this was true, my answer was this:
Arguments get fueled when moms don’t feel heard. Here are 3 reasons why moms don’t feel heard:
Reason #1: A mom needs to vent about something that has happened with one of the kids and Dad says, “Did you try to do A, B, or C?” Mom doesn’t want solutions; she just needs to vent.
Reason #2: After Mom unloads on Dad, Dad says, “You know, you really shouldn’t feel that way.” That will definitely start an argument.
Reason #3: After Mom vents to Dad, Dad says, “I really think you’re making a big deal out of nothing.” Not good. Most arguments occur because someone doesn’t feel heard. Ninety-five percent of the time, people don’t want solutions or to be told how to feel. They just want to vent!