Communicating with your Spouse

This month’s Ask Coach Kathy question is about Communication.

Is it important to speak up and tactfully, lovingly communicate with your spouse any time there is something bothering you about what he or she is doing or not doing, if it’s a recurring situation? How do you know when you should speak up or just accept it and let it go?

Yes, it is important to speak from your heart and mind if your spouse is doing something that bothers you. But first, ask yourself this question: In the big picture of life, how important is this issue that is bothering me? If it is something that bumps up against your core values, then absolutely address it with your spouse. If it is coming from pride or ego on your part, chances are your lesson is to let it go. Easier said than done, but that’s what works.