In this month’s issue of Psychology Today, is an article called “It’s Not All About You!” As we are on the cusp of spring, I thought this would be the perfect article to help you sprout some new ideas in your mind on how to bring the best you that you possibly can to your marriage or relationship.
There isn’t a person, male or female, walking the planet who doesn’t experience stress. Whether it’s work-related, child-related, health-related, finance-related, etc., we all have stress in our lives. It can sometimes come out in the form of worry and anxiety based on the stories we tell ourselves in our mind.
Researchers, psychologists, and professors of psychology are finding that the feeling of awe counteracts worry, anxiety, and rumination. Nature is a common generator for awe and what better time than spring to experience the awe of nature.
Journalist, Richard Louv, the author of The Nature Principle: Reconnecting With Life in a Virtual Age, asks, “What is the first window into wonder?” He says, “It’s crawling out to the edge of the grass, listening to the wind and the trees, turning over a rock, and realizing that you’re not alone in the world.”
According to a large-scale British study published in 2013, dwelling on worries is the biggest predictor of depression and anxiety. Awe is the opposite of worry.
So, as crocuses start popping up, buds reveal themselves on trees, and birds start building nests, notice the awe-inspiring changes around you and you’ll notice your worries decreasing and the positive energy between you and your mate increasing!
This post brought new ideas to try into my relationship. I would really do hope that there would be a change.