My wife starts being irritable around mid-November. We usually have 15 people for dinner, and by Thanksgiving morning, the tension in our house is unbearable. I just wish she would chill out. Any ideas?
Yes. Start asking this question starting mid-November: What can I do to help you prepare for Thanksgiving? Asking this question is about you initiating. My guess is this one question, alone, will break the tradition of irritability and tension.