Do You Fight or Argue?

As a guest on Cleveland’s Trapper Jack in the Morning Show (WDOK 102.1) this morning, I talked about fighting fairly.  The first thing I said was I didn’t like the word “fight.”  I explained that although it makes for great radio, it carries with it a load of negative energy and connotations.  Yes, words have energy!  

Granted, if you and someone are pummeling each other with your fists, you’re having a fight.  But most of the time when people argue, they are strongly disagreeing, which by the way is normal!  As soon as you bring the word “fight” into it, it shrouds the situation with what I believe to be an unproductive tone.

When you are in conflict with someone and you make it clear that you strongly disagree with him or her, you automatically set a parameter around the interaction.  In essence, you are telling the person you are putting away your boxing gloves.  Leave fighting for the ring.