Both you and your mate make mistakes in your marriage or relationship. It comes with the territory – you’re human. Being aware of some of the pitfalls can help you prevent some of the most common relationship land mines. In this blog, I focus on men first. Ladies, watch for the blog to follow because you’re next! Below are some of the most common mistakes men make in a marriage or relationship:
1. One of the worst things a man can say to a woman is, “You’re making a big deal out of nothing.” Ouch! A woman’s number one love need is to be validated. To do otherwise sends the not-so-well-received message: What you’re feeling is crazy.
2. Another mistake men can make is that they sometimes play to their “steel” side rather than to their “velvet” side. A woman wants to see both the strong/hard and soft sides of her mate. Occasional moments of vulnerability in a man helps a woman feel emotionally and physically connected to her partner.
3. Men sometimes lose site of their mate’s daily needs. Whether the needs have to do with household chores, parenting, or finances, a woman wants to know her mate is aware of her stress level. One of the best things a man can say to a woman on a daily basis is, “What can I do to help you today?”
4. Sometimes men talk in generalizations. Looking at life in a big picture way is extremely valuable. Many women, however, live in the details. When a man communicates strictly in general terms, he misses the opportunity to grow closer to his partner.
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