This month’s positive point with a couple occurred when each person became aware that he/she had developed a negative communication habit (yelling and condescension) from a parent.
Up until receiving coaching, they were unknowingly giving themselves a “free pass” on using the habit because “Well, I learned it from my parent”.
Parents teach us lots of things, some positive and some negative. And, by the way, they do the best they can with the information they have at the time. Realizing we can break the cycle of negative habits we learned from our parents is paramount. Sometimes, even though we may learn more from our parents’ negative habits than from their positive ones, it doesn’t mean we have to keep using those negative habits.
This particular couple I am working with has raised their awareness in a huge way and can clearly see the demarkation line between the negative and positive habits. The positive habit is overtaking the negative one!