Wedding planning is stressful. I’m convinced the closer a bride-to-be gets to the big day, the more she is at risk of making bad decisions. A case in point is the true story of someone I know who was recently invited to a friend’s wedding. The invitation came in the mail with a “plus 1,” meaning the freedom to bring a guest. This young woman planned on bringing her boyfriend, a no-brainer … until she broke up with her boyfriend a month before the wedding. Thank goodness she had a friend she could take instead. Well, not so fast. Upon hearing of the break-up, the bride called this young woman and said, “I heard you broke up with your boyfriend. We are tight on cash for the wedding, and I was wondering if you could not bring a guest. I liked your boyfriend, but when I heard you broke up, I figured you wouldn’t mind coming to the wedding alone.”
What? thought the young woman. Not bring a guest? You’re taking back my “Plus 1?” Not to mention, how about I’d like to bring another guest because I did break up with my boyfriend?
The young woman said she understood, but spent the next few days steamed about it. I must say, I agree with this girl. To invite someone and include a “Plus 1”, then take it away is not appropriate. Okay, I’m going to say it. It’s tacky! And in this case, insensitive.
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