Often, when I work with a couple, I hear the complaint, “We have different communication styles.” I understand why having different communication styles can be seen as a negative rather than a positive, because many times opposite communication styles can clash and cause conflict. Not fun. Frankly, most partners walking the planet have different communication […]
How to Communicate Effectively About an Important Issue
This month’s Ask Coach Kathy discusses how to communicate effectively about an important issue in relationship. When I’m with my fiancé in front of other people, I notice that when he refers to me, he says, “she” rather than my name. When he does this, I feel discarded and almost like I’m not there. How […]
Talk in Your Relationship the Non-Conflict Way
This month’s Ask Coach Kathy explains how to turn a negative situation around in a relationship by talking at the right time, and in a non-conflict way. My girlfriend has a bad habit of embarrassing me in front of people. If I make a mistake, she’ll say “Why did you do that?” Or if I […]
Aging In a Relationship
This month’s Ask Coach Kathy focuses on my own experience of growing older together in a relationship. As a relationship ages, so do the two people in it! My husband is 73 years old and I’m 62, and we’ve been married for 35 years. A couple of years ago, we decided to join an aging-in-place […]
Agreeing to Disagree in Relationships – Love and Politics
This month’s Ask Coach Kathy’s question is about compromising and agreeing to disagree. A couple of weeks ago, Fox 8 called me into their studio to do a news segment on how a couple can best maneuver conversations around politics if they have diametrically opposed political viewpoints. Basically, what I talked about in the interview […]
