Often, when I work with a couple, I hear the complaint, “We have different communication styles.” I understand why having different communication styles can be seen as a negative rather than a positive, because many times opposite communication styles can clash and cause conflict. Not fun. Frankly, most partners walking the planet have different communication […]
How to Communicate Effectively About an Important Issue
This month’s Ask Coach Kathy discusses how to communicate effectively about an important issue in relationship. When I’m with my fiancé in front of other people, I notice that when he refers to me, he says, “she” rather than my name. When he does this, I feel discarded and almost like I’m not there. How […]
Successful Relationships Are About Progress Rather Than Perfection
This month’s positive point is about a couple who are committed to staying on track in their relationship. This month’s positive point with a couple occurred when they came into my office for a maintenance session. This particular couple comes in every quarter just to make sure they stay on track in their relationship. The positive point […]
Re-Building Trust In Relationship After Crossing Boundaries
This month’s positive point is about re-building trust after behavior that crossed a boundary. This month’s positive point occurred with two couples with whom I am working. Although they all are completely different people, each couple is going through a similar situation. The situation is this: one mate made a decision to interact through text […]
Aging In a Relationship
This month’s Ask Coach Kathy focuses on my own experience of growing older together in a relationship. As a relationship ages, so do the two people in it! My husband is 73 years old and I’m 62, and we’ve been married for 35 years. A couple of years ago, we decided to join an aging-in-place […]
