This month Ask Coach Kathy is about a spouse who feels ignored for most of the year, except for Valentine’s Day.
I hate Valentine’s Day. I feel like it’s a sham. My husband hardly pays attention to me or our relationship for most of the year and then comes waltzing in with a new pair of diamond earrings and thinks he’s good to go for another twelve years. If I see one more red heart, I’m going to scream!
Listen, if your husband is treating Valentine’s Day as a ‘1 and done’, he’s got it all wrong. Valentine’s Day is the icing on a cake that needs to be baking all year long. Valentine’s Day is a wonderful holiday to take the extra step (even if it’s a baby step) to show the other person that he or she is important to you. Notice I said, “extra step.” That means love is about taking daily steps (yes, something every day) to let your partner know he or she is a priority. By the way, Valentine’s Day isn’t just for mates. It’s for children, extended family, friends, and pets. If the recipient of your love is breathing, he or she can benefit from Valentine’s Day.