Should You Resolve an Argument Before Going to Bed

This month’s Ask Coach Kathy discusses whether you should stay up to resolve an issue or if it’s ok to go to bed angry.

Sometimes my husband and I will have a disagreement later in the evening. He insists we stay up and resolve the issue. I am often exhausted and become more argumentative. We end up going to bed in the wee hours of the morning. Is it true we can’t go to bed until we resolve the issue?

I know there is the old adage, “Don’t go to bed angry.” I do not subscribe to this adage. To me, the best thing you can do for yourselves and your relationship is to get a decent night’s sleep. You’ll wake up with a clearer head, and emotions that are less inflamed. You want to give yourselves the best chance at having a constructive follow-up conversation and getting sleep is the way to do that.

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