Earlier this week I went walking in our neighborhood. It was a gorgeous fall day. I was plugged into my ipod and was booking down the street, swinging to the sounds of the 1940’s when suddenly my right foot hit an uneven piece of sidewalk and I went flying. As the sidewalk sped toward my face, I instinctively threw out my hands in front of me. I saved my face, but I sprained my wrist and forearm in a major way. It is four days later and I am still in a wrist brace. Apparently, this injury could take up to eight weeks to heal!
You wouldn’t think immobilizing your wrist would affect the rest of your mobility much, but it does. That’s where my husband comes in. My husband, Dick, is and always has been an “acts of service” spouse. His primary way of loving me is to help me with anything and everything. I know. I’m really lucky. So when I am debilitated in any way, his “I’m here to serve you” mode kicks in big time. From walking our dog, to making dinner, from bringing up laundry to driving me to a speaking engagement, my husband has helped me this week above and beyond what he normally does.
I bring this up because I want you to know that although your mate may not be an “acts of service” person, he or she also loves you in a “themed” sort of way. The themes I refer to come from a book called “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. I list these five for you:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Acts of Service
4. Physical Touch
5. Material Gifts
Think about which love language your mate uses most to love you. Send me some examples of how you’re loved and I’ll send you a free relationship tip!