Lately, I’ve been coaching couples who are in long-distance relationships. These are men and women who don’t see one another sometimes for weeks and even months. They talk by phone, text, and e-mail, but the technology just isn’t cutting it for them. For these couples I recommend “romance telepathy.” This is when a couple agrees to pick one or more times during the day to stop what they are doing for 30 seconds and think of one another, as they imagine each other’s face, a favorite memory, or envision themselves kissing one another.
I actually discovered this idea of romance telepathy one day while looking through my mom’s attic after she had passed away. I found an old shoebox full of love letters my dad had written to my mom while in the army during World War II. In one of my dad’s letters were instructions to my mom for romance telepathy. Here is what he said in his letter to her, dated October 22, 1941:
“Darling, every day at eight o’clock, your time, I’m going to give you a kiss, also at one o’clock and at six o’clock and at ten o’clock your time. I want you to do the same, will you? I’m memorizing these times, so I’ll make sure not to get the wrong time. Because I want to know that when I’m doing it, you are doing the exact same thing. We will start this schedule Wednesday morning at eight o’clock your time. Is that okay? Okay.”
These letters are a gift. In them is my father’s heart – to me, a treasure worth more than gold. To take this treasure and pass it onto you or someone you might know who is far apart from his or her loved one is the best way I know to carry on this beautiful legacy.