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September 10, 2009 By Kathy Dawson 1 Comment

The Wedding is Off – by Text!

I was a guest on one of Cleveland’s FM radio stations, WDOK 102.1, this morning because one of the hosts of the show knew a friend of a friend who broke of his engagement by sending his fiancee a text. The text said, “The wedding is off. I’ll be mailing you your things.”

The host wanted my opinion on this style of break-up. Oh, I gave it. I said that this story disturbs me greatly. Although this type of behavior is not common, it still occurs more regularly than you might think. What saddens me isn’t so much that this woman’s dream is shattered or that the wedding invitations went out and now cancellation announcements must be sent. What distresses me more than anything is the lack of personal accountability on this man’s part. Certainly, if he doesn’t want to enter into a marriage, that is his decision – better it is made before than after the wedding. But could he man-up enough to tell this woman to her face? Does he have to take the chicken’s way out and hide behind the convenience and smoke screen of a text?

Has the time-saving benefits of technology become so accepted that it takes the place of face-to-face interactions, especially when it comes to major life decisions? So, if breaking off a wedding is okay to do by text, what’s next? How about a doctor sending a patient the diagnosis of a terminal illness. Or the military texting a wife or husband that his or her spouse has been killed. Where does this quick, emotionless kind of communication end? I don’t know … I just don’t know.

If you have a story or an opinion of a tactless text, please send it to me.

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  1. kathy says

    September 22, 2009 at 1:11 pm

    I to am a bride of a canceled wedding. What upsets me is he had his grown daughters call the guests. He has yet to call everyone. The comment I’m trying to understand is ” he’s not allowed to love anyone.” What does this mean or come from. I believe his family and daughters are the reason for the break as in the past. We were to be married in 5 weeks when he canceled then moved out.

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