Yes, in our busy world, scheduling time for your relationship may be necessary!
This month’s positive point in my work with a couple came when the couple realized that one of the tools I gave them from the “tool bag” of 35 tools they are given was indispensable to them. The tool to which I’m referring is The Weekly Meeting.
This tool is to be used by the couple once a week as a touchstone, a time when they do the following:
- Confirm the next weekly meeting so it stays on the calendar.
- Schedule a date for a date with each other and decide who plans and executes the date.
- Check what levels they’ve been communicating on (surface, deep, etc.).
- Review one solution sheet they’ve created together – to make sure they are staying true to what they agreed upon and to remind them of their teamwork.
- Review and record their successes as a couple from the previous week – I ask them about them!
Some of what is on the agenda for the weekly meeting may not make sense to you. Suffice it to say, the weekly meeting becomes an anchor for many couples. It was only when this particular couple stopped having the weekly meeting that they realized how much they missed it. Sometimes we have to stop a positive habit to understand its value, so we can pick it up again and use it!