When one partner works on their role in the relationship, it changes everything.
Today’s article is about a couple who has reached a positive point in their work with me.
Sometimes people think mates must come for coaching together to get any benefit from it. That is absolutely not true! Although, it is ideal for both parties to be present, I frequently work with one partner to change and improve how that person interacts with his or her mate. The beauty of this approach is that when one person is accountable for his or her own behavior in the relationship, the relationship changes.
For example, I have a client (a husband) who came to me completely honest about his less than positive ways of communicating with his wife. He had built up some pretty ingrained habits that were not serving the relationship.
Here’s the important point: he was ahead of the game because he was not in denial of the part he played.
Just by coming in for sessions, his self-awareness went up 50%. Then with new information to help him speak differently to his wife, and time to practice, he and their relationship made huge strides. The wife was so impressed with her husband’s willingness to change his habits, she decided to come in for sessions, as well.
The moral of this story is that when you change your dance steps, often your mate changes his or hers, and that can change how you two dance through life together!
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