Arguments happen in every marriage or relationship. Disagreeing is normal. If a couple tells me they don’t disagree, that’s the couple that worries me. Having to win an argument at all cost, however, is a problem. Stating your point of view or venting your feelings to your mate and realizing there may be no right or wrong in the situation is much more productive than going into an argument dead-set on winning it.
If your motive for disagreeing is about winning, you’ve got big problems before you even utter a word. The problem with winning an argument is that there is no prize – nothing. Sure, your ego may feel momentarily fed, but that fades quickly. No trophy to put on a mantel, no pot of cash, not even a booby prize.
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