This month’s Ask Coach Kathy’s question is about compromising and agreeing to disagree.
A couple of weeks ago, Fox 8 called me into their studio to do a news segment on how a couple can best maneuver conversations around politics if they have diametrically opposed political viewpoints.
Basically, what I talked about in the interview was if a couple’s opposing views create a huge amount of conflict between them, that they need to have the awareness to say, “We’re going to have to agree to disagree on this topic” and let it go.
Having said that, if each person’s political views translate into differences in daily life decisions, they will have to find a way to compromise.
For example, let’s say a couple needs to buy a car. One mate wants to help the environment and go 100% electric or buy a plug-in hybrid car. The other mate thinks climate change is a hoax and wants to get a large family van that is not fuel efficient.
Here is where compromise comes into play. Mates have to realize that no one person will get his or her way 100%. This couple may end up getting a hybrid van. A battery is used for some of the travel and yet the car is still large enough to feel roomy and can transport a family.
So, mates are, of course, allowed to have their own points of view, as long as compromise is used for daily decisions.
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