This month’s Ask Coach Kathy is about what you can do when you don’t like your spouse’s family.
I love my husband dearly, but I can’t stand his family. They are loud, abrasive, and rude. I haven’t gone to family events for 3 years and I know it saddens my husband.
Why do I have to go if I’m not comfortable in the situation?
No one I know says, “Yippee!” when they think of being in an uncomfortable situation. However, think about how high the stakes are in your life if you feel the discomfort and do it anyway. How would it affect the energy between you and your spouse if you moved through the discomfort? How would it affect your own personal growth if you moved through the discomfort? Your ego is chirping at you to stay home: “Why should I endure the cacophony of this family? Why should I be subjected to worrying about this for days before the event?”
Look at this situation as an opportunity to handle it differently than you have in the past. As Dr. Wayne Dyer always used to say, “If we change how we look at things, the things we look at change.”