In a recent article of an on-line magazine called Spirituality & Health, the author, Joy Hosey, relays how to “travel in better time with your mate.”
Ms. Hosey writes that one of the best ways for you and your mate to spend your life’s journey together is to make a habit of remembering how you met and sharing that story with others.
I can attest to that idea because one of the first things I do with a couple when I meet with them in my office is to have them create their relationship timeline. One of the most important pieces of information they give is how they met.
Apparently, scientists have confirmed that strong emotions determine how well we remember events. The positive outcome of this discovery is that whenever you and your mate focus on the wonderful memories of how you met, you will replicate those same warm, fuzzy feelings in your relationship and toward one another.
At the other end of the spectrum, working as a couple to envision how you and your mate will make future memories will also create the same warm, fuzzy feelings. When you and your partner work on a project together or collaborate on anything, it exercises the following 4 important skills:
1. listening with curiosity.
2. spontaneous sharing.
3. accepting each other’s influence.
4. making clear agreements.
Whether you and your mate talk about your early past or near-to-distant future, you will surely stay “in better time with each other.”