If you’re married or in a committed relationship, you’re going to make mistakes. It’s unavoidable. There are some mistakes, however, that are avoidable, if you know about them. Heads up on these 5 avoidable mistakes in a relationship or marriage:
- Referring to your mate by using a pronoun. When you are in the presence of your partner and are speaking about him or her, use his or her name! Calling your mate “he” or “she” while your partner is standing next to you is a no-no!
- Pulling the “I’m done” card. If you pull the “I’m done” card, you better be prepared to follow through. With every use of this phrase, trust between partners breaks down.
- Staying up to resolve an argument. I know the standard rule is to avoid going to bed angry. Well, if all you and your mate are doing is going in circles arguing, you’re wasting your time and energy. Better that you agree to reconvene the next morning and get a decent night’s sleep. Let go of your need to be right and sleep on it. You just might see the situation differently in the morning. You’ll have more energy – that’s for sure.
- Speaking for your mate. As much as you may think you know your mate like a book, refrain from speaking for him or her. Rather than assume you know what he or she will do or say, ask your partner a direct question. You might be surprised by the answer.
- Apologizing without changing your behavior. Admitting when you are wrong is a wonderful thing. It’s a great first step to personal accountability. Continuing the behavior you are apologizing for, however, erases any heartfelt words you express. Make sure your walk matches your talk.
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