Not in a Relationship During the Holidays?

I appeared on Live on Lakeside on WKYC Channel 3 today to talk about the single’s survival guide to the holidays.  The holidays, because of the media and culture hype, can be rough for single people.  Here are a few pieces of advice to help you to have a peaceful and fulfilling holiday season:

• If a friend or family member at a holiday event asks you, “When are you going to find that special someone?” you can respond in one of two ways:  “I’m uncomfortable with that question and would prefer to avoid answering it.”  Or you can say, “I’m actually very happy with my life the way it is.”  Both of these statements are said in a neutral tone, with a smile on your face.  Chances are, that person won’t ask you about a future relationship again.
• Whether they are other single people or couples, surround yourself with those who truly love and care about you.
• Because you won’t be buying gifts for a mate, go ahead and splurge on yourself this season.  Treat yourself!
• If you want to socialize during the holidays, be proactive.  Start planning activities now rather than a couple of days before.
• If you are suffering from a recent break-up or death of a partner, honor your own individual grieving process. If being alone feels like what will give you the most peace, then be alone.  If being with one or two close friends gives you that feeling, then do that.  If you want to be in the middle of the holiday festivities, by all means, do so.

The important thing to remember if you’re single during the holidays is that if you want to share in festive activities, plan ahead.  And if you would like a quiet holiday with only one or two friends, or even if you want to be alone, that’s okay, as well.  Listen to your gut!