The more we express our feelings the easier it is to be more vulnerable with our partners.
This month’s positive point with a client happened when I had a couple of solo sessions with someone who wanted to learn how to express himself and be more vulnerable with his girlfriend.
When working with both of them together, this person struggled with expressing positive and negative feelings. It just hadn’t been a muscle he had exercised regularly. Once he was in this fairly new relationship, he realized quickly that learning how to share feelings with his girlfriend was going to be pretty important.
In our work together, we practiced an exercise called the “high/low.” He would tell me what his high and low were for the day and how he felt about each one, not what he thought about them, but how he felt about them.
Sometimes, some of us tend to go into our heads and express a thought when a situation really calls for an expression of a feeling. All that is is a habit. This particular man just needed to change his habit of often expressing thoughts instead of feelings.
I also worked with him on answering lots of questions that asked for a feeling response. We had 2 two-hour sessions together and I can say with assuredness that this man is much more comfortable sharing his feelings. It was astounding to me how quickly he showed a more vulnerable side and easily talked about his emotions. Kudos to him!!