Ending a relationship is extremely difficult, even if you’re the one who wants it to end. Initiating a break-up is no picnic. And needless to say, being dumped is the pits. Below are some tips on how to take care of yourself when a relationship is severed.
- Allow yourself to move through the shock of it all, even if you are the one initiating the break-up. Shock takes time to be processed.
- Unless the relationship is an abusive one, break it off during a face-to-face conversation. Try to answer as many unanswered questions as possible so that the two of you can leave without unfinished business. Knowing why the relationship ended is important for the “breakee” to hear.
- If the relationship that is ending is between you and a co-parent, make sure you can remain friendly for the sake of the kids. You’re still going to have to communicate about parenting!
- Give yourself time to know who you are before you start dating again. A rebound relationship is a hazard in this situation. Be honest with yourself as to what you did to contribute to the relationship that led to its demise, so that you don’t repeat history.
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