The phrase, “Let’s take a break,” gets a bad rap. People hear the word, “break” and they often think of break-up. This is not necessarily so! Sometimes in relationships partners feel as though they are spinning their wheels. They might be having the same argument for the 50th time, may be bored and in a rut, or their feelings may have gone underground. Whatever the reason for wanting space, a “break” can be a good thing. Here are some ground rules for if you want to take break in your dating relationship:
- If you want space in your relationship, be honest with the other person. Hanging out with someone you really want to get away from for awhile isn’t fair to you or the other person.
- Before taking the break, agree on how long the break will last. To get the most out of the break, it needs to last a minimum of 2 weeks.
- While on your break, make sure you don’t text, call, e-mail, or facebook your mate. If you do any of these, it is no longer a “break.”
- Decide if the break will be used to date other people. Be very clear on this point so that there are no assumptions and surprises.
- Consider getting professional help while on your break to see what part you may play in the conflict in your relationship.
- Spend time during the break to think about whether or not you are willing to get professional help once you and your mate are back together.
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