Often people get into a marriage or relationship expecting the other person to take care of all of their needs. This is a fundamental mistake. Expressing your needs is important, of course, and in some instances your mate will happily fulfill them. But to expect your partner to meet each and every need you have over the course of your relationship is not only unrealistic, it is damaging to the relationship.
If you need something from your mate, certainly express your need. If, however, he or she isn’t able to meet that need, have a plan B. In other words, know how to take care of yourself rather than depending 100% on someone else taking care of you. Life is about balance. So a balance of expressing needs and taking care of your own needs is the way to go. To learn more about striking this balance, click here.