It is important to make time for each other in your relationship.
My husband is addicted to his devices, I’m sure of it. If he’s not on his iPad, he’s on his phone, if he’s not on his phone, he’s on his laptop. I’ve started asking myself, “Why am I married?” I need help.
Sadly, this is not an uncommon scenario in a relationship or marriage. Our devices can be seductive, so much so that it can feel like we’re having an affair with them! The person not on a device can feel replaced.
I recommend 2 things. First, schedule a weekly date on your calendar. The ground rule is NO devices allowed while on your date. Let me be clear. Absolutely NO devices on your date. If you get a phone call from the babysitter, that is the exception. Other than that, I recommend you put your phones away.
Second, I recommend you have a 1-hour period during the evening, twice a week, that you and your husband are techno-free – this includes zero TV. During that hour, make sure you spend quality time together. Sit and talk, play a game, take a walk, go get coffee. Whatever you choose to do, technology is not in the mix.
By instilling these habits into your lifestyle, and being consistent with them, you’ll develop a new rhythm in your relationship. It’s like shocking your relationship’s system. It works!
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