I thought I did a great job celebrating Valentine’s Day with my wife – dinner and a trip to the art museum. But it feels like she expects me to continue to give her that kind of attention every day. Don’t you think that’s too much to ask?
My guess is that your wife doesn’t need a special outing each day. What you might be sensing in her is a desire for you to notice her – really see her – each day. This doesn’t take a lot. For example, when you find yourself in the room with her, stop whatever you’re doing and take a minute to look at her. How is she standing or sitting? What does her hair look like? What is the expression on her face? She will eventually sense you are looking at her and might say, “What are you doing?” You simply say, with a loving look in your eye, “I’m just stopping to look at you.” You will make her day!