In general, we humans usually aren’t known to be reclusive. We are social beings who thrive on connection instead of isolation. Having said that, in committed relationships, we usually like and need time and space to develop ourselves. Whether we use the time to hone a talent, such as singing, painting, or writing, or we simply want to commune alone in nature, we do crave the ability to separate from our mate at times. This is a good thing!
My husband is musical. He plays a variety of instruments and at times, he is drawn to the basement to be alone with his talent. It’s not only a positive in our relationship, but necessary. While he dabbles in playing the trumpet or keyboard, I’ll sequester myself to play a game of Scrabble with the I-pad or study and practice my French.
Sometimes our interests create more physical space between us – me taking a bike ride or him taking a photography class. When we reunite, we are more interesting and energized for having been separated.
To read more about how separate interests and time away from your mate can be rejuvenating, click here.