My daughter and fiancé are getting married this summer. We paid for the entire wedding and feel we should have the ability to approve all decisions having to do with the wedding. Our daughter disagrees. What do you think?
I think there aren’t parents alive who wouldn’t want to be involved in such a joyous occasion as the wedding of their daughter. Regardless of whether or not parents pay for the wedding, they need to let go of control on how the money is spent.
In your case, as long as you have budgeted what you were able to give, trying to control how it is spent will only create heartache. You certainly can be part of the team to help your daughter and her fiancé if they ask your opinion, but as soon as you insist on making the final decision on anything, you’re going to have problems. Give the funds with no strings attached, sit back, and cherish one of the most precious moments in your and your daughter’s life.