Balancing relationships can be difficult.
My wife and my mother don’t care for one another. Mother’s Day is usually a nightmare for me. I feel torn. I want to have my mom over for dinner, but my wife doesn’t want to share a Mother’s Day with her. Once again, my wife resented my mom being part of the day. How can I avoid this situation next year?
It sounds like you are stuck between your wife and your mom, who are both important moms in your life. Here are some options to consider for next year:
- Take your mom out for brunch or dinner on your own the day before Mother’s Day so that you can spend alone time with her. She might enjoy that, and your wife will most likely support it.
- If you’re set on having your mom in your home on Mother’s Day, carve out time to shower your wife with attention before your mom arrives or after she leaves. Make sure you do all of the meal preparation and clean-up. I’d make the meal very simple so that prep and clean-up don’t take too much time away from honoring your wife.
- Set boundaries around the time your mom is at your house. Tell your mom up front that you have a window of time to spend with her on Mother’s Day. Of course, this is said with love and caring.
Both of these women are important in your life. It can be a balancing act. I may be simplifying this situation, but I truly believe if you are kind to your wife and your mom, you can’t go wrong.
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