This month’s Ask Coach Kathy talks about letting go of the things that you aren’t able to change.
My wife has this irritating habit of leaving drawers and cupboard doors open. I’ve asked her to please close them, but this annoying habit of hers isn’t changing. I feel like a flight attendant closing the overhead compartments all day long! How do I get her to change this habit? It’s been going on for 20 years.
Brace yourself. If your wife’s habit has been engrained for this long, there is a high chance it won’t change. So you’re left with “fighting the current” and reacting negatively around it, or you can accept this is part of your wife’s behavior and decide it isn’t worth working yourself up over it.
As you said, you’ve requested her to change her habit. That’s about all you can do. You do have control over your reaction, however. Is it worth the time and energy your irritation is demanding? When we let go of a negative thought, truly accept the situation, that is sometimes when the situation changes.
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