Thoughtful communication can really transform relationships.
There is a “buzz phrase” that’s been going around for a while now. It’s “You know everything isn’t about you.” The subtext to this statement is: You are so self-absorbed that whatever feelings you are having in this moment are invalid and self-centered.
This phrase is a damaging way to communicate to your mate or a loved one. It may feel oddly satisfying to toss out this phrase in reaction to what the other person has said, but it will rear its ugly head back at you almost instantly.
Let me give you the use of a phrase that is similar but used in a different context and can actually build a bridge rather than a wall between you and the other person.
If you are under stress, feel cranky, irritable, or have any other negative emotion that isn’t related to the other person, saying, “I want to let you know I’m having a tough day, and my crankiness isn’t about you,” is a great piece of information for your partner, friend, or family member.
Isn’t it amazing how words and phrases said one way rather than another can make all the difference in the world?
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