Getting the help you need anytime in a marriage is a good thing, however, if you can learn new information, skills, and tools before you tie the knot, you’ll be way ahead of the game.
I see more and more couples coming into my office who want to be proactive in their relationship by seeing a professional who can help them zero in on the trouble spots. When I ask them what has made them reach out for help, I often hear “We see our friends getting divorced and we want to try to prevent us from having to go through that.”
So it is with this open, willing mindset that pre-married couples get coaching. It is heartwarming to see these people realize their union is not about the wedding, but what happens after the wedding. Here are some of the areas we cover in great detail in our coaching sessions:
- Finances – wedding planning and budgeting for everyday life
- Parenting – if they don’t have kids, now is the time to talk about having and raising children.
- Romance – before they get sucked into the vortex of daily life, they put together a plan for fun and romance.
- Practical Life – even if they have lived together, many times they are moving into a new space. Knowing how to work as a team while living under the same roof is crucial.
- Communication – conflict is an inevitable part of life. Knowing how to handle it is what matters most.
- Lovemaking – before work, the house, the kids, etc. seem to get in the way of sex, now is the time to discuss the frequency and variety of lovemaking.
Kudos to all of those who step up with a preventive mindset and get help for their relationship before they get married! To learn more about how you can get help for your relationship, click here.