More and more, technology is becoming a sore spot in relationships, particularly in relationships between spouses and mates. The phrase, “He/she is having an affair with his/her phone!” is something I’m hearing with more frequency. Because our phones come with so many functions, such as texting, Internet, photos, etc., our attention is being pulled toward lots of addictive options. The attention we’re giving to a website, text, or camera roll, may be replacing attention we could be directing toward our mate or our relationship. The answer? Boundaries! Here are some boundaries my clients have created:
- Unless there is an expected call from a child, the phones are off during dinner.
- The phone is turned off during a date of any kind, whether it’s a dinner date, movie date, or sporting event date.
- The phones are NOT used when getting into bed at night or rising from bed in the morning.
- Save conversations that include feelings for face-to-face exchanges rather than texts.
- If talking about your mate on social media, make sure your post is strictly positive.
- Share all technology-related passwords with your partner.
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